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life revisited

July 18, 2008 – 6:25 am

So, Things have been poppin onthe photography end. If you looked at my blog in the last few weeks you would think I STAY behind a camera, and I do, but I get alot of life lived around that part too. And while I love the big images, I think sometimes I need to post in my way. So when I’m talking about my life my posts will look more like - well, my posts. Rather than showcases for the images, I’ll showcase a few by  putting them in the same format that I did before with the thumbnails at the end of the post. So hover and click to see a bigger picture. **Okay that little feature isn’t working and I can’t get to my home pc for uploading to fix til tomorrow.. be a dear and test it for me during Saturday morning cartoons please? Is that okay with everyone? yes? great. Kthanks!

poetry (2 of 4)Bri is standing on her own as of this past Sunday. She was sitting with my poet friend and she just let go and Bri stood there until we started clapping and she decided to clap too and that threw off her balance.  I did go to a poetry reading last weekend. Good friend Sheba came through to grace my couch and brought a friend Georiga ME from Atlanta, who is such a personality.

We spent a fair amount of time with Miss Georgia as her plane was canceled and that resulted in an extra day and night with us. She didn’t seem to mind. I enjoyed her work, and as I work on making my way back into poetry as a hobby It was refreshing to talk to her, and I will probably mark our conversations in my reasons why I decided to come back.

I also got to meet one Mister Kevin Sandbloom. Can I just say, Oh my. That man has vocals that made me stop and turn around to find out if he was actually singing or if I was gonna find an angels or doves sitting in his stead. He was geninuely a nice guy as well which is refreshing for such a talented person. Its a flat out DAMN SHAME that man doesn’t have a record deal.

Miss Sheba did her damn thing as well. I only see her when she comes to town for poetry shows. Her visits are so few and far between. Sometimes I am disapointed that we don’t see each other outside of her gigs. But shes got a house too so I am planning to go visit her in ATL later this summer. And I’ll sleep on her SUPERSTAR FUTON, Sheba do you even HAVE a suserstar futon? Cammy, Sheba and Georgia had the most interesting visit. Cammy is a girls girl. So while they were getting ready, Cammy was hovering, totally enchanted by Sheba’s bangles and Georgia’s makeup bag, as they are DIVA’s they have all the tools to enchant a budding four year old girl.

It was refreshing to TALK to adults whose ideals I didn’t already know, who I don’t necessarily agree with, who I respect and who can take an actual discussion. (Thank you Georgia.) ANd the level of local poetry at the event was suprisingly strong. And I am looking forward to going back outside more often. Wish I could go this Friday, alas I have a photography event I must attend, so next week for sure.

Jerry’s picked up a new weekday hobby that he really enjoys, I am not going to elaborate as I am trying to force him to blog about it. He sucks worse than I do at blogging. Although he is certianly holding up his end of our e-lationship he sent me this, and I think I am totally geeking on it. I have always loved NPH, and this just makes me remember WHY I love him, and now my husband loves him, and I’m okay with that.

I will blog more in the very near future. I have alot more sessions to put up, and lots of life to catch up on.

Life is a verb -its not meant to be something that happens to you, its something you do. “Why not?” is a perfectly good life Strategy!  

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mommy cutters

April 29, 2008 – 9:48 am



mommy cutters

Originally uploaded by raquita.

So Bria and I have a difference of opinion. She thinks that honing her RAZOR sharp teeth on my chest is a good thing.

Alas I do not.

Shes very upset by my decision as that means I am mostly pumping and feeding her by bottle. Only letting her breast feed late nights when shes not thinking about biting and I’m not thinking about bottles.

This I can see is not oging to be the easy thing it was with Cammy. Oh how I miss being rejected by my infant.

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you said it Selma**

April 15, 2008 – 2:26 pm

I really feel for those mothers who have the babies really young. It’s a lot of work and I think it’s the best time….It’s a little nerve-racking to wait that long, but it’s the best time to have it because you’ve done so many other things in your life. You just get it out of you system, and you can really relax into being a mother, which is the best thing that can happen to you.

But if you’re 23, you don’t know this because you think you have to do so many more things. But if you already did them, then you can really focus and enjoy every minute of it. - Selma Hayek

Selma is one of the sexy-ist, smartist women - in my opinion - in hollywood. She is one of the few women who I think could walk into my marriage and leave with my husband - for at least a few weeks, before he realised she can’t ______ like me and comes on home. Shes ticked a lot of people off with this statement, and I happen to agree with her whole heartedly.
Truth is I know both sides of this argument. My mom had me when she was week fresh 17. I had my first daughter when I was 27 - which by all arguments could still be concidered young but looking at the cycle my mother insisted my sister and i avoid, we were practically OLD. In fact when bpregnant with my second child my mother implied that I was OLD which was why it was more difficult the second time around.
Seriously.
Being 27 when I gave birth I felt like I had done the club scene and wasn’t “missing out” per say when my friends decided to go out, and I’m grown enough to know I can still go occasionally if I wanna. So I get what shes sayin, and I can see where young moms would get offended. I know none of my friends are going though whatI am going through mostly becuase out side of a few most of my friends have eight, nine and ten year olds. THey will be far done and kickin it again when I am contemplating whether Cam can be dropped off at the mall alone. SO there are some perks to early parenthood including hearing “you can’t possibly be old enough to have a 31 year old daughter!!” which my mom gets all the time. But my angle on it is- is having kids young something you would encourage your son or daughter to do? for me - no - I will, as my mother has done, encourage my kids to wait as long as they can to have kids and live as much as they want before hand - cause kids change the way you live, they just do.
What do you guys think? Selma out of line?

**updated for the visuals the hubby asked for.. satisfied?!?!?

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BONE head move of the day

April 9, 2008 – 3:22 pm

So yeah I was sitting on my porch with Baby Bri yesterday and watch this couple park their GIANT 1960’s pickup infront of my house and they procede to get out of the car when the girl passes an infant to the guy FROM OFF THE SEAT. Not out of a car seat mind you, but off the bucket seat of this powder blue boat that resembled a truck.
I’ve not lost my marbles yet - so I ‘m like - “Yo, do ya’ll need a car seat for that kid?!?!”
The guy is like, “Well, sorta - yeah.” So I go in the house and grab the car seat we had been using for Bri - which she is clearly too big for (her feet hang off the end - and not by a little bit either, like from her ankle down) and take it and give it to the couple and tell them to strap that kid up. Turns out the girl is preggers and due again any day now. SO if I had had two seats I would have given the other to her as well.

But wouldn’t you know it - in all of my benevelience I forgot that we don’t have a convertible seat for Bri. SO no one can take the cute Chub-Rocka with us.

Which means I need to cancel the Dr’s apointment I made for today…

Genius Raquita, simply genius…

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bar baby

April 7, 2008 – 6:15 pm

I just read the most interesting article about moms and babies and bars. which is funny cause in my last post I was talking about how my mom had her birthday party at the Ritz in the lobby which - has a bar in it. A full, honest to goodness bar mind you, with kick butt mojitos, and a sushi bar in another area. So when I read this article I had to laugh.

It never occured to me to not take my girls with me to wish their grandmother a happy birthday. Cammy was excited to get dressed up in her party dress (she looked way better than me mind you) and I don’t think any less of my parenting because they went and stayed up rediculously late and had a really good time. We didn’t ply them with tequilla shots, and I didn’t drink either. But Cam did help with passing out cake slices and danced with her Granny and followed uncle Erskin around till well after her normal bed time. SHe learned seh couldn’t drink grown up drinks, but learned the joy of a shirley temple. It was a non smoking hotel so we had no issues in our party really.

I don’t take my kids when I want to hang with my girls and really have a drink. I don’t want my kids to watch me get saucy. I don’t take my girls unless I know we are going to be among a group of people who are child friendly, I am usually not concerned about the venue, and I have no intention of drinking. But I have taken my kids to pubs like Llywellens, and Ice and something or other. And I will again, I’m sure.

I beleive if my kids are well behaved and enjoying themselves they can go anywhere I want them to. I don’t allow my girls to throw tantrums - at all - in public places. Cam knows that is a sure fire way to get taken home ever so quickly you might for get you ever left.SO I am always confident about taking my kids where ever I want them to be.

do you guys take your kids to places typically not concidered kid friendly?

side note- Randy Pauch is going to be on ABC News on wed. I watch his lecture once a week. I’ve been watching it since the week after he gave it- when I first saw it - it wasn’t on youtube yet, you had to go down load it from somebody at the school. It helps me remember who I want to be and how I want my kids to be. I would strongly recommend you watch it if you can.

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Happy Monday

March 10, 2008 – 4:31 pm

So this weekend was a score on so many levels, most particularly Sunday.

Weekend lesson learned: even kids need a date night.

What do you mean Raquita?

Oh dear internets let me explain.

imgp5501Since the introduction of dear Miss Bri, who in the previous post picture was eating a lovely Gnome, she has, by necessity taken Cammys place as the automatic sidekick to mommy. When I have to go somewhere, and I’ll be gone for more than say two hours, Bri typically must come with, as she requires my body for meals. Which means either Cammy must stay with her father or She must share what used to be her one on one

Click to continue reading “Happy Monday”

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