….if I were killed by a s rabid grizzly bear in our living room… Hey it could happen.Sometimes I write my girls letters, sometimes I think of the lessons I would want them to take away from my life, and I list them. So here goes… Some of the things I would want my girls to know.
Being born a woman is an honor from God – being born a black woman gives you so much more than I can type here. Appreciate the beauty that has been created in you. Never forget who you are and what that means. You are the core of the universe, and that means you must always live with honor, strength and dignity, demanding life respect that in you, and that you respect life through your actions.
- Boys suck most of the time - sorta, mostly, they really do. Don’t listen to what they say – listen to what they do. He can say how much he loves you but if he’s not showing it constantly -consistently through his actions, RUN.
- Think before you speak – and learn to listen and hear things even the things people don’t want to say.
- High school is a temporary torture, just be yourself and enjoy everyday. Being the cool kid should never come at the sacrifice of someone else. In high school nice people do finish first if they work hard and are outgoing.
- I will forgive you if you go out for cheerleading.
- I won’t if you don’t bust your ass in all your classes, shoot in what ever you do FOREVER.
- Goth is not cool, it really does nothing for your beautiful hair and all that black won’t frame your pretty face well. In addition you can’t make your beautiful bronze skin pale and your only freaking out your grandmother. And not that I’m not down with that, but take your anguish out on a journal not your closet okay?
- Try everything. I’ve always told you – you can do anything, so I don’t want you to ever be afraid to try everything. (drugs, beer bongs and excessive gambling are the exception – we are a family that is predisposed to addiction – please don’t tempt fate)
- Keep a journal – even if you don’t write down all of your feelings write down the things you never want to forget and the lessons you learn so you won’t forget.
- ordinary spats hurt just as much as big giant ones sometimes, so always be mindful of what you say to the people you care about
- loving someone does not have to cost you your freedom – loving your father taught me that. Getting married isn’t really about settling down and clipping your wings. Its just a different kind of freedom, when its right – you’ll want to fly with them and they will want to watch you soar.
- Don’t over look the things you don’t like about people, go with your gut about friends, boyfriends too.
- No mistake is so permanent that you can not do something to resolve the situation.
- step up and contribute – to your life, your work, to love. You can’t be mad people don’t know what you can do if you are afriad to show them
- Tenacity – I will make sure you have it – use it.
- What you compromise to get you will eventually lose
- Compromise is necessary – but don’t be swindled out of your soul
- You are not for sale, no matter how much you have or god forbid don’t have – your intergrity is not for sale, neither is it to be given away
by raquita
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